I never thought I would say this, but you are missing out on something wonderful if you don’t attend our high school reunion.
It is not uncommon for people to post on Facebook asking if they should attend their high school reunion.
My answer is YES!
7 Reasons to Attend Your High School Reunion
You Remember Why Those People Were Your Best Friends
Back in my day, that meant tying up our family phone for hours on end. These days that means texting each other nonstop.
In high school, I spent Friday nights at football games. Not because I liked football (I still hate it), but because I could hang out with friends. I spent non-game nights hanging out at someone’s house watching horror movies or out tp’ing a house. SHHH! Don’t tell.
My high school wasn’t huge, so my friends and I had most of our classes and lunch together.
We were around each other all the time.
But after graduation, distance pulled us apart. It wasn’t as easy to keep in touch without Facebook and text messages.
Months turned into years which turned into decades without seeing each other, and those friends no longer held importance.
A funny thing happens when you see those friends again at your high school reunion.
They immediately put you at ease, and you remember why you loved them so much. You didn’t think about it as kids, but often what pulled you together was your core values. Those haven’t changed, and you have just as much in common now as you did decades again.
As one of my high school friend’s said, your high school friends know you better than any other friend ever will because you grew up together.
You Get to Know Classmates You Didn’t Know Well in High School
In high school, we run in our own circles. You don’t get to know classmates if you didn’t share classes, you were socially more advanced (or not as advanced) as them, and they didn’t participate in your activities.
You knew who they were, but you didn’t know them.
Your high school reunion is the chance to meet those people you missed out on years ago.
I found that the Lanier Viking class of 1986 is filled with a group of amazing people.
In high school, I was so wrapped up in my own world as a high-achieving student that it never even occurred to me that people who weren’t in my honors classes went to college.
Seriously. Talk about an academic snob.
As an adult, I know better. Classmates outside of my inner circle are now friends on Facebook, and I enjoy following along with their careers and families.
Time is the Great Equalizer
Our high school wasn’t split into The Athletes, The Princesses, The Criminals, The Brains, and The Basketcases like The Breakfast Club. (If you purchase from that link Amazon will give me a commission.)
Instead, our high school was a ven diagram with overlapping circles. The smart kids overlapped with the cool kids which overlapped with the jocks. There weren’t fights and conflicts between the groups during school, just coexistence.
But, time is still the great equalizer.
The women have gained weight (some of us more than others) and have wrinkles. The men have lost their hair and what they have left is turning grey.
And we all resemble or parents more than our high-school selves.
Those things that separated as teenagers no longer exist. Instead, they are replaced by the common bonds of careers, marriage, children, health issues, and caring for our aging parents.
After 20, 25, or 30-years, gone are those old insecurities and feelings about each other.
Your High School Crush is Still Adorable
At your high school reunion, you might discover that your high school crush is just as cute and cool as you remember.
Or you may wonder why in the world did you ever have a crush on that person.
Either way, it is fun to find out if they still match the picture you hold in your memory.
Your Classmates Remember Things You Forgot
As the years go by, the less we remember our high school days. Your classmates will have stories to tell about you that you don’t remember.
My friend Josh still rags me for squishing his twinkies (literally people, not figuratively) in junior high.
I remember stealing his New York Yankees jacket and throwing it out the window, and then shutting the window when he crawled outside. And I remember that he kept a stack of hall passes in his pocket to use when he got locked out. I remember that Tom “Hank” F. was my co-conspirator.
But I don’t remember squishing any twinkies.
I also don’t remember why our teacher was out of the classroom enough for all of this to happen.
And, I remember stories about Josh that he doesn’t remember.
I feel compelled to point out that Josh is still one of most cherished friends. We kept in touch through the pre-social media years despite his constant travel around the world.
So he is TOTALLY blowing my junior high bullying out of proportion.
(And I did send him a case of Twinkies as an apology.)
You Find Out What Your Classmates Thought of You
Stanford recruited our one super-star athlete to play basketball. Deshon was smart as a whip, tall as a tree, and an all-around nice guy. His favorite thing to do in our calculus class was to playfully push our brainy salutatorian, who would push him right back.
At our 25-year reunion, Deshon pulled me aside and told me how much he always admired me and how I was a such a nice person.
I was floored, humbled, and grateful that he took the time to tell me.
High School Reunions are Fun
As the years go by, our class reunions have become less structured.
They started off with awards and formality, but after 30-years now it is just food and conversation.
It is fun and fulfilling to hang out with friends, old and new, and enjoy each other’s company.
So when your next high school reunion comes around, consider RSVPing yes.
You won’t regret it.
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