The most precious of friendships last through multiple seasons and reasons. Hold on tightly to your friends for a lifetime.
What Makes Someone a Friend for a Lifetime
You need time to make a friendship for a lifetime. Lots of time.
But more importantly, a friendship must weather multiple seasons to see if it survives and grows into a lifetime friendship.
Friendships of our youth don’t always hold up when faced with adult situations. And friendships based on the proximity of school or work, don’t always survive when people aren’t around each other every day.
A long-lasting friendship requires commitment, understanding, and work.
Friends That I Treasure
My friend Gayle completes me. During our first conversation, I knew we would be friends. After 15-years our friendship has endured major ups and downs in both our lives. I pray that we are friends for a lifetime. She is the one I want to hang out on the lanai with after our husbands die.
But right now, my lifetime friend is Lori.
I remember the exact moment I met Lori. It was our first night in the freshman dorms at Baylor University. She was sitting on the floor in her doorway with a popcorn maker. She shyly said, “Anyone want popcorn?”
We soon discovered that our moms were eerily similar. They even had the same wallpaper in their kitchens and purchased the same dishware in an exclusive deal at the grocery store. We also had a lot in common, and our friendship grew.
As sophomores, we lived in different apartment complexes but remained close friends. At the end of the year when her roommate situation turned sour, she slept on my floor until school ended.
We lived together as juniors and even shared a room as seniors. (Yes, privileged young people. College students use to SHARE bedrooms because they couldn’t afford their own.)
We have remained friends through at least eight moves; four were cross-country, multiple jobs, three marriages, a divorce, the birth of three children, and the adoption of one, and the death of a parent.
When I moved back to Texas, I gave her as many of my belongings that she could fit in her car to set up her first home in Georgia.
When I was on hospitalized bedrest waiting for my son’s premature birth, she asked me what I needed. Then showed up at the hospital, 3-hours from her home, with everything on my list including a pen with purple ink.
And when my son was born, she gave me all of the baby stuff. And I do mean all – the crib, stroller, car seat, clothes, and toys. She had kept everything for me from the birth of her kids 3- and 5-years earlier.
And she kept giving me her kids outgrown clothes and toys until there was nothing more to give.
When her mom died, I sat with her and her siblings at the services.
There are times that we talk frequently, and others when we go months between calls or messages.
But when we are together, it is like no time has passed at all.
Today is my 50th birthday, and we are celebrating our birthdays (her’s was 8-days ago) at Disney World.
And we celebrate being 32-years into being friends for a lifetime.
She’s a keeper, and I plan to be her friend for at least another thirty-two years.
Read all 50 pieces of advice I shared in honor of my 50th birthday.