If I had a dime for every divorcing person, who said: “I’m just not in love with him/her anymore.” Well, no shit. Marriage is about commitment, not love.
I think the biggest mistake people make is thinking that getting married is about love.
Well, at least it isn’t about the type of love most people are talking about. The kind of love where you can’t wait to see that person again because of all the warm fuzzies they bring.
There is a reason why arranged marriages have a higher success rate than marriages based on love. They get married as a commitment and not because the other person gives them warm fuzzies.
Long-time married couples will tell you that the warm fuzzies come and go. But what makes the marriage work is the commitment to stay together even when the warm fuzzies aren’t there.
Marriage is About Commitment
My sage friend Robin is about fifteen years ahead of me in her marriage. She said these words that continue to stay with me whenever I get tired or frustrated in my marriage.
Last year I was more in love with my husband that I have ever been in our relationship.
But this year he could go on a really long trip without me, and that would be fine.
So the next time you wish your spouse was on a really long vacation, remember that next year may be the one where you are more in love than you ever have been before.
Remember that marriage is about commitment, not love.
Read all 50 pieces of advice I shared in honor of my 50th birthday.