It is much easier to talk to your teens about sex if you start sex education in preschool. You laid the groundwork and set the tone when they were young.
It is Easy to Start Sex Education in Preschool
Like most kids, my son first asked where babies come from when he was waiting for the arrival of his baby sister.
Only his baby sister was arriving on an airplane from South Korea.
Every time we drove past an airport, he would ask if a baby was coming home. And that was a lot since we live right next to a small airport.
We knew that further explanation was required when he asked when his friend Cameron’s family would be going to the airport to get their baby. Cameron’s mom was pregnant.
We explained that some families get babies from airplanes, but other families get babies from their mommy’s belly. And in fact, that is how we got him.
Of course, a string of questions followed. We decided to answer honestly and on my son’s level.
“Where did the baby come out?”
“Mommy’s have a hole where the baby’s come out.”
“Is it the hole where you pee?” (Because we all know that lessons on anatomy aren’t necessary when you have a son. They learn pretty quickly that girls and boys pee differently. Because moms never pee alone.)
“No, it is a different hole.”
“Can I see it the next time you go potty?”
My son was barely three-years-old.
It is easy to start sex education in preschool.
Preschoolers don’t know that talking about sex is supposed to be embarrassing and uncomfortable.
And if YOU don’t act embarrassed or uncomfortable, then your kids won’t feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. And your kids will be willing to ask questions and talk openly with you about sex as they grow older.
Talking About Sex With Older Children
We decided that books would be a better visual aid than Mom. I found this set of books, and continue to use them even today with teenagers.
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Currently, I have an 18-year-old boy and a 15-year-old girl.
I have talked all things sex with both of them.
Sometimes I started the conversation.
Sometimes they started the conversation.
Sometimes it was started for us through current events.
But in all cases, we talked honestly and openly.
Sex Isn’t That Big of Deal
Regardless of your religious beliefs, sex is not a big deal.
At some point in their life, most everyone has sex.
Sex is part of being a human being.
Teaching your kids that sex is taboo or shameful isn’t right.
At some point, your kids are going to have sex. And they will have to get past all those negative vibes and guilt you put in their heads, even if they are married.
Not talking to your kids about sex is even worse.
Did you know that a good chunk of middle schoolers think that oral sex isn’t sex because you can’t get pregnant?
Do you want a bunch of 12 and 13-year-olds teaching your kid about sex?
Trust me on this one. Your life will be much easier if you start sex ed when your kids are in preschool.
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