Wear lipstick, and nobody will see how your life is falling apart around you. All they will notice are your lips!
It was the end of the 1980’s, and for reasons I still can’t explain, I attended Baylor University.
We had a name for the typical type of girl you would find on campus.
Betty Bow Head.
Big hair, big hair bows, and lots of makeup.
Pretty much what today’s 7-year-old looks like during a cheerleading competition.
Only the girls at Baylor looked like that all the time. In 8:00 am classes, at football games in 100-degree temperatures, for Sunday church, or out on a date. All. The. Time.
I was not one of those girls. Neither was Heather from Amarillo.
Heather and I lived next door to each other in the freshman dorms, then went on to room together for the rest of college.
Heather’s mom was the embodiment of the quintessential West Texas woman.
God bless her, Heather was not.
I hadn’t known Heather long before I figured out that her mom thought wearing lipstick was the key to the world.
Want to make friends? Put on lipstick.
Want to get a job? Put on lipstick.
Want to get picked for an award? Put on lipstick.
Want a boyfriend? Put on lipstick.
And as late teens and young adults, we thought Heather’s mom was off her rocker.
At some point in my late-30s or early-40s, I was getting ready to go out. I don’t even remember if it was for a special event or just something with a group of other moms.
But what I DO remember is that I was not feeling confident about how I looked. I felt fat, my hair wasn’t doing what I wanted, my face was broken out, and I didn’t feel good about myself.
As a finishing touch, I put on a new, bright colored lipstick, looked in the mirror, and thought:
Dammit! Heather’s Mom was right.
That’s when I realized that if you put on a bright shade of lipstick, people aren’t going to notice anything else. All they are going to see is your lips and your smile.
Wear lipstick! You will thank me one day just like I now thank Heather’s Mom.
Read all 50 pieces of advice I shared in honor of my 50th birthday.